Ready for a new idea to bring flirty and fun energy off the pages of romance novels and into our lives?
In previous posts we’ve discussed sending spicy texts and never stop dating. Both of those focused on our love life.
However, with being more playful, we are going to concentrate on the energy we bring into our everyday interactions, with the cashier or bank teller or our child’s teacher. How do you greet your friends … or strangers?
Because, let’s be honest, keeping our relationship fresh, at the end of the day, is less about the actions we take and more about the energy we bring.
A fancy dinner date can feel mundane if the couple is simply going through the motions. Whereas a walk through the park can be remembered for years to come if there were sparks flying.
Granted we send spicy texts and plan novel dates with the intention of igniting a flame and increasing the chances we feel that flirtiness.
Another way is to become a playful person, in general.
Not flirty, but playful.
Flirty is reserved for our special love. While playful can apply to everyone and may be the key to our success with being more playful with our partner.
If you are playful all day, with everyone you meet, then a) you get lots of practice and b) you’ll already be in a playful mood when you see your significant other later.
Plus you’ll just have more fun as you go about your day.
But how? Here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Give unexpected (but true) answers. Respond to “How are you today?” with “really fantastic!” or “especially happy!” and you’ll jolt the other person out of their routine since they will be expecting the usual “fine.” Likely this will start a conversation about why you are doing so well.
2. Watch or listen to something funny (perhaps a comedy show on Youtube or the radio) just before an interaction with someone. Then try to bring this humor and light-hearted energy into your conversation.
3. Really listen. People are constantly giving you little threads to pull on or kernels of information that you can smile and ask about.
4. Remember people’s names. If you always see the same cashier, take the time to remember their name. Often times this can be enough to create a fun and playful energy in your conversation.
5. Smile. It lifts everyone’s spirits and invites conversation.
6. Ask for a small favor. “Can you watch my coat while I go to the bathroom?” It’s been shown that people like you more when they do a small favor for you. Strange, I know, but true. A small favor asked of a stranger, can turn that person into not-a-stranger and before you know it you can be practicing your playful energy with them.
I’m curious; what do you think? Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences!